People Are Going To Judge You! (Part 1)

People are going to judge you. This is fact. Especially if you are open with your relationship with God. Oh yeeeeeaaaahhhhh, and you definitely aren't able to do a thing wrong when you are unashamed (116 ;) ) of the gospel.

Honestly, I had a whole notha' direction in which I wanted to take my next blog post but you know what I guess I will use this one to really just express my experiences as a young believer going through daily life.....and people....and their thoughts ugh lol.

Let me first say that I screw up. True story yall lol...I slip up some times a lot more than others. And if anyone asks my boyfriend, as he would tell it...I get oh so emotional when I do. Partly because I know that I did it because I desired to. Other reasons, well....I know that I have no excuse  when I do. I guess you can say I am a little hard on myself.

The flip side of that is that when other people see your life from afar....they only expect perfection. As a believer, I never make a point of saying I am perfect. In fact, more often than not, I constantly put myself out there in saying that I do screw up, I do make wrong choices...I do eff up lol. Many times, it is actually OTHER PEOPLE giving me that label that I never asked for in the first place.

The thing is that there is always someone out there waiting for you to mess up and a lot of times it is those same people that say they admire you, that likes those statuses or comment on those posts. This is real life yall lol and humans beings are something else! Those same people will call themselves calling you out on something that you have already gone to God for lol.

I can't lie, it can be totally aggravating, mainly because you want to get on their level and hurt their feelings. But you can't and some may ask, "Why is that? Why not treat them the same way they treat you?"

Well dearie, the first reason is pretty much the only reason...if you are a believer you must still love them like Christ loves us all. Trust me though, it AIN'T easy. A lot of times these same people are dealing with their own set of issues and they are lowkey looking for a way to kinda tear down your progression.

OMG, and don't try to make positive changes in your life, they will definitely try to slaughter your self esteem because of that as well. Many people are, what my mama calls it, nice/nasty. As nice as they can be [you know with those likes and comments and shares and compliments] they will still turn right around and talk about you like a dog and later on smile in your face....again.

These are the type of people you gotta love from afar or if you are not careful they will utterly be part of the demise of your overall growth. I guess what I am saying is that we all have to be aware of the company that we keep. Even as a believer, the Lord makes it quite clear about the importance of the company you keep, such as:

1 Corinthians 15:33

Do not be deceived: "Bad company corrupts good morals."

Proverbs 13:20

He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm.

1 Corinthians 5:11

But actually, I wrote to you not to associate with any so-called brother if he is an immoral person, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or a swindler--not even to eat with such a one.

Proverbs 14:7

Leave the presence of a fool, Or you will not discern words of knowledge.

Psalm 26:4-5

I do not sit with deceitful men, Nor will I go with pretenders. I hate the assembly of evildoers, And I will not sit with the wicked.

Psalm 1:1-4

How blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked, Nor stand in the path of sinners, Nor sit in the seat of scoffers! But his delight is in the law of the LORD, And in His law he meditates day and night. He will be like a tree firmly planted by streams of water, Which yields its fruit in its season And its leaf does not wither; And in whatever he does, he prospers.

This list could literally go on, but for my people who came to my blog not really looking for a bible study this go around, all I am saying is that the wrong people can contaminate your happiness and your progress. So we all have to watch who hangs around us because it honestly effects our well being.

Back to the overall topic though...PEOPLE ARE GOING TO JUDGE YOU! They are going to go in for the kill, especially when they think you are trying to be perfect. As of recently, I have been labeled as a judgmental hypocrite....and I can not lie..it did poke my heart lol. Although my name was not specifically stated, you know when people are trying to throw rocks, boulders and everything else to hurt you. It honestly pissed me off but as I look at it now, I now see that we are all at different walks in our spiritual lives with Christ. So a lot of times, if you aren't at the same level spiritually people will come at you in the worst way because the understanding is not there.

Now let me make this clear, when I say you aren't on the same level, I am not saying one person is better than the other because of where they are spiritually (because I know someone was going to read that part and be petty lol). What I am saying is that everyone is different and everyone aren't sharing the same experiences in their lives or have the same desires to be closer to Christ. That doesn't make one better than the other, it's just the reality of things.

So How Do You Deal With Judgement?

Here's a few things I've learned....

1. Pray. Prayer will not only give you direction but will also give you strength not to get on their level.
2. Figure out whether this person is really judging you or are they just holding you accountable? A lot of times we all, myself included, misunderstand judgment for accountability because we don't like looking at the icky/dark/no so innocent places in our lives. So we gotta be careful with that **this is something I'll talk about in the 2nd Part of this blog post**
3. If you know the person is just being spiteful confront them if you think it is worth it. Especially if this is a person that holds a special place in your heart, someone who you spent countless hours with, someone that you have invested a relationship with.
4. If the person is just being petty then chunk the deuces! If this isn't something or someone you should really be taking serious then just direct the foolishness to the door, ignore them and proceed with your life.

So yes, people are going to always have their opinions and judgement, however how you handle the daggers is up to you. Honestly, I am still learning how to navigate through like through the eyes of Christ but until then, stay prayed up and remain encouraged because hatas gon' hate...regardless lol.